Falling Out of Love

I don’t know whether you fall out of love or whether love has lots of different phases that we move through. Maybe you get to a phase that don’t want to move in to and so it ends. Or maybe it wasn’t right to start, maybe you settled, maybe you knew it wasn’t quite right …

Be Awesome

I work really hard to be awesome. When other people smile or laugh when you’ve done something lovely for them you get an enormous boost. For anyone with mental health issues it’s a great way to feel needed and fulfilled. So go ahead do something awesome today. Read that children’s book with crazy voices, make …

Staying Mentally Well Whilst Ill

I’ve got the dreaded covid. I managed to avoid it last year with ill people in the house but this time, my two children gave it to me. I’m not at all surprised, I kiss them a lot. It’s ok. It’s just covid. I’m not going to die. I feel shite, it will pass. So …

Never Stop Trying

I try not to write posts that are overtly personal or have my opinion in. But I have learnt over the last year of being single that love and the way that we show and receive it is a personal thing. Some people show love by physical affection or sex, others through acts of service …

Wishing You a Calm, Happy and Well New Year

I’m not one for making resolutions. I think most will be broken by mid-January. Instead, I take a pause to think about my life, my health and then wish myself well for the coming year. There is unfortunately no magic pill or silver bullet to fix your mental health. It takes a combination of hard …

Merry Bloody Christmas

It’s the most wonderful time of the year… well for some of us. Christmas Eve is my favourite day of the year. Cooking, wrapping presents, making mince pies, getting everything ready for the big day tomorrow. So why are so many people miserable? Road rage, shop rage and general grumpiness is rife. I get a …

Get an Awesome Support Network

I feel all warm and fuzzy inside when I read about other people who are talking about their awesome support network. From friends who check on you to a family who come over to do chores. From work colleagues who ask ‘can I help?’ to partners who step up when they read the signs. Having …

Avoiding the Car Crash

Do you ever wonder how you’ve got here? The screaming/blubbering/ghostlike/anti-human that is you at your mental-health nightmare-worst. Back again. I think to myself in times like these… well I ate well, I exercised, I took my meds, I asked for help. But still, I ended up back here… again. It takes me by surprise every …

You’re Probably Queuing Next to Someone Who’s Struggling

This happened to me today… Context: I’m on holiday in Cornwall with my two little ones. We’re at the Eden Project, one of my happy places. I’ve been really struggling with my mental health for about a month. I’m doing my best… it’s not great. I’m queuing for a coffee. A 70 something woman starts …