Staying Mentally Well Whilst Ill

I’ve got the dreaded covid. I managed to avoid it last year with ill people in the house but this time, my two children gave it to me. I’m not at all surprised, I kiss them a lot. It’s ok. It’s just covid. I’m not going to die. I feel shite, it will pass. So …

Never Stop Trying

I try not to write posts that are overtly personal or have my opinion in. But I have learnt over the last year of being single that love and the way that we show and receive it is a personal thing. Some people show love by physical affection or sex, others through acts of service …

Wishing You a Calm, Happy and Well New Year

I’m not one for making resolutions. I think most will be broken by mid-January. Instead, I take a pause to think about my life, my health and then wish myself well for the coming year. There is unfortunately no magic pill or silver bullet to fix your mental health. It takes a combination of hard …

Merry Bloody Christmas

It’s the most wonderful time of the year… well for some of us. Christmas Eve is my favourite day of the year. Cooking, wrapping presents, making mince pies, getting everything ready for the big day tomorrow. So why are so many people miserable? Road rage, shop rage and general grumpiness is rife. I get a …

Get an Awesome Support Network

I feel all warm and fuzzy inside when I read about other people who are talking about their awesome support network. From friends who check on you to a family who come over to do chores. From work colleagues who ask ‘can I help?’ to partners who step up when they read the signs. Having …

Avoiding the Car Crash

Do you ever wonder how you’ve got here? The screaming/blubbering/ghostlike/anti-human that is you at your mental-health nightmare-worst. Back again. I think to myself in times like these… well I ate well, I exercised, I took my meds, I asked for help. But still, I ended up back here… again. It takes me by surprise every …

You’re Probably Queuing Next to Someone Who’s Struggling

This happened to me today… Context: I’m on holiday in Cornwall with my two little ones. We’re at the Eden Project, one of my happy places. I’ve been really struggling with my mental health for about a month. I’m doing my best… it’s not great. I’m queuing for a coffee. A 70 something woman starts …

Give Yourself a Break

Gosh I haven’t written in a while. Sorry about that. I’ve been working very hard on getting myself better. Anyone with mental health illness knows that some days are good and some are bad. The same goes for months. The same for years. Sometimes we all need a break to just look after ourselves. I …

Find Your Tribe

I’m sure I’ve written this before… but anyhoos… do you love your friends? I mean really love? Not just ‘oh yeah I like hanging out with them’ but ‘I can’t live without these people in my life’ kind of friendship. The people who you’re happy to be you in front of. I recently met a …

Stop Piling On the Pressure

I recently attended sports day. My children are in a lovely little rural primary school. Did this make sports day any less competitive... no. And I’m not talking about the children. First, there was the ordeal of finding a seat. Unfortunately, the only space was next to someone who would rather spit at me than …